29 Life Lessons on my 29th Birthday
Hey sweet loves! Yesterday was my 29th birthday so I wanted to give a bonus post. Here are my top 29 lessons that I have helped me to be the person that I am today.
Forgive- I wasted a good part of my life harboring unforgiveness in my heart. I’ve earned that forgiving those who hurt you has nothing to do with them and everything to me; my growth, my healing, my heart.
Stay Connected to the Vine- I have learned time and time again that I can only produce joy, peace, happiness, and overcome comparisons and my insecurities by remaining connected to the vine. Jesus is the vine, as long as I stay connected to him I will bear good fruit.
Truth + Grace- One of the biggest lessons that God has taught me and is continuing to teach me is that truth means nothing without grace. I tend to be a truth person. I focus on what is true and forget to offer grace to myself and others.
It’s Ok to Say NO! - Guys, its ok to have a big heart. It’s not ok to allow your heart to convince you that you need to a person that always says YES. I am learning that I can not run dry saying yes yes yes .
Caring & Carrying Are Not the Same Thing- Who am I kidding I literally just learned this maybe a few hours ago haha. I’m learning how to be there for people without carrying their pain, their insecurities, and their decisions on my back.
Friendships Change- Man guys I can say that I have had many “close relationships” fade away into the distance. At first the idea of someone who I once called sister becoming a stranger was odd to me. But I’ve learned that sometimes you are in peoples lives for a period of time, and although you made have seen it as a forever thing, that is not always the case.
Friendship Dynamics Change- As individuals we are constantly learning, changing, growing, and facing difficult times, which means we aren’t always going to be the same person that we were when we entered our friendships. Sometimes through the process of change your friendships just don’t mesh the way they use to. I am learning that this is natural, and although sometimes it may be painful, that’s just the way life goes.
God’s Faithfulness Never Ends- God is always reminding me that He is faithful PERIOD! No matter how fickle I am, He never changes.
Marriage Isn’t for the Weak- Marriage is beautiful, but it also teaches you a lot about yourself. I’ve learned some pretty nasty things about myself from being married. Thank God for #3 Truth AND Grace.
Do What Makes You Happy- I spent a good part of my life doing what I thought would make others happy, down to the clothes that I wore. I’m so grateful that I’ve learned that there is nothing better than doing what I like, what I enjoy, and what I love.
God’s Promises Never Return Void- There have been many times in my life where I allowed my circumstances and my own doubts to overshadow God’s promises for my life. It’s like I tell myself that I can not be used based off of who I am as if God needs my abilities to do what He wants to do in and through me.
Live In the Now- Having Jaxen is what really made this one come alive for me. It is so easy to constantly be focused on whats happening next. Jaxen has taught me that there is beauty to be found in ever single moment of the day. The dishes can wait, the laundry can wait, to enjoy moments that I will never be able to relives again.
It’s All About the One- When I first started blogging I was all about the numbers. How many people are reading my blog, liking my pictures, opening my emails?!?!? While it is important to grown and improve, I have to constantly remind myself ; if even if ONE person is touched, one person is encouraged, one person can relate , that’s enough. Jesus was all about celebrating the ONE!
Set Realistic Goals- I felt like a failure when I first became a mother, all because I was setting myself up to fail. Setting a To do list that is 15 pages long with a newborn to care for is beyond unrealistic. Now I set myself up to win by being realistic about my goals!
Everyone Is Not For Me- I use to believe that because I was a Christian I needed to force myself into friendships or situations with people because it was the kind thing to do. Like come on Jo, Jesus loved everyone, but he had a close knit group of trustworthy riders. It’s ok to do the same.
Kicking Fake Smiles to the Curb- I will no longer attend events where I have to pretend that I am comfortable, and stress my face out with fake smiles. I’m too old for that!
Believe Who People Show You They Are- This has relieved me from a ton of stress. When people show me who they are, if they are someone that I want in my life long term, I take note of it, and act according. Ex. If I tell you about something positive happening for me and you give me the weakest, fakest “yay” I’ll make a mental note that you’re a friendly hater, and that’ll be the last time I share info with you. I’ll still love you though haha.
Failure Is Necessary In Order to Grow- I use to look at failure as a bad thing. One day while having lunch with my mom about failure she looked at me and said “You tried. Do you know how many people in this world are walking around wondering what could have been if they only tried to start that business, run that marathon etc.” Now I try to focus on how I can improve, and give myself a pat on the back for trying!
Dream BIG- All things are possible through Christ who strengthens YOU!If God has called you to do something, He already has the details worked out. His plans for you are greater than you could ever imagine!
There Is Nothing Wrong With YOU time- I use to feel so guilty when the thought of wanting to be away from Jaxen and Marq came into my mind. It felt selfish of me to not want to spend time with them. Two years later I’m learning that it is ok to have time to myself, and to make things about me!
Self Control Girl, Self Control- This applies to almost every area of my life — eating, shopping, winning arguments, saying yes — I am realizing that I really do lack self control in so many areas. I have to depend on Jesus for help!
Time Management- Time management is EVERYTHING. I let myself down in a lot of areas in 2018. When I reflect on what led to these downfalls it was almost always me mismanaging my time.
A Full Schedule Doesn’t Equate to a Full Heart- I am valuing down time with just my family more and more. I use to pack my schedule out and think that that was what was best for me. Meanwhile I was just draining myself ad causing myself more stress. Less is more.
Every Dream isn’t Meant For Every Ear- As excited as I get what I feel God calling me to do something new, I am learning to contain that excitement, that vision, that dream, and tuck it into my heart.
Keep Your Inner Child Alive- I made a vow to keep my inner child alive. There are many reasons to feel weighed down and overwhelmed. I am learning that I have to make a conscious effort to make sure that I am still enjoying life. Cheers to more rollerblading, bowling, sports, and good times
Be the Change You Want to See- It is so easy to complain and complain ad complain about everything under the sun. I’ve been making an effort to be the change that I want to see instead of complaining and waiting for someone else to be it.
Appreciate Your Loved Ones- I’ve seen so many people post about loved ones that have passed away and all of their regrets. It has really been a reality check for me. I never want to wish I would’ve loved a little harder, apologized, or forgave.
I Control My Emotions- For a long time I let my emotions run my life. If I woke up anxious, I was anxious for the day. If I woke up annoyed, I was annoyed for the day. I eventually got sick of it! I control my emotions. I can decide to be happy, to be thankful, and to see the glass half full instead of half empty.
Think of What is TRUE- Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Philippians 4:8
Well folks, that’s that! I hope you enjoyed this. Don’t forget to share, like, and drop a comment letting me know which one of these life lessons you can relate to!