Put Some Respek On My Name
Disclaimer: My goal is to empower women. In no way, shape or form is this post dissing the working mom.
I have heard a lot of things that make me cringe and roll my eyes since I've had Jaxen, but this statement is probably in the top three statements that makes me want to snap my finger & place the person speaking in my shoes. This statement has been made in a variation of ways, & I am sure that most stay at home moms have heard most of theses listed below...
"Oh you stay at home with the baby? How cute."
"Wow lucky you, you just sit home and play all day."
"Oh haha, I would do anything to have it as easy as you and stay home."
Let me just say that I am extremely grateful to be able to be a stay at home mom. I enjoy watching Jaxen do new things, and change right before my eyes. But come on please, please do not belittle my job.
For starters, everyday is a new experience. Just because Jaxen took a two hour nap, and I got to write a little and read today does not guarantee that tomorrow I will be able to do the same. As a matter of fact, sometimes Jaxen wants to do nothing but be in my arms all day.
What does that look like?
I put him down to eat, he screams. I put him down to do laundry, he screams. I try to take down chicken... I'm sure you get the point by now.
Being a stay at home mom is a 24/7 kind of job. Again I am not saying that moms who go to work and then come home and take care of their babies do anything less. What I am saying is stay at home moms are not home playing with their thumbs, overdosing on netflix, and sipping a glass of wine all day.
My son loves to be entertained. Which means I am constantly reading, singing, going on walks, talking, dancing, and performing my butt off.
In between that I am doing his laundry, our laundry, taking down food for dinner, paying bills, and making phone calls.
Being a stay at home mom is a fast paced lifestyle. Especially if you are trying to do anything like blog, sew, read a magazine, or anything for your benefit.
I remember when I first had Jaxen. My husband would come home from work and see me exhausted on the sofa. Some days the house would a complete wreck, and I could tell by the look on his face he was wondering "What the heck do you do all day? He's just a baby."
I knew that he would not understand unless I put him in my shoes! He ended up having two weeks off for vacation; except it didn't end up being the vacation he thought it was going to be.
Every two hours when Jaxen woke up to eat, I woke up my husband. Every time he cried, I allowed my husband to tend to him. If Jaxen wasn't crying because he was hungry, I allowed him to meet his needs and figure it out.
Well let me tell you, by the time the first week was up my husband was bragging to anyone who asked. The conversation went a little something like this.
Tom: "Hey bro, how is it with a newborn? How are you Jo?"
Marq: "Yo bro, my wife is super woman. I don't know how she does it. She really is a super mom bro."
Nothing made me happier than this. Although it bothers me that others think being a stay at home mom is a piece of cake, affirmation from my husband is really all I needed.
A lot of moms don't have that. Everyone around them is wondering what the heck they are doing at home. So for all of you moms out there busting your butts for your kids and household, if no one ever has, I salute you. I honor and thank you for being so selfless. You are a gem. In the words of my husband, you are SUPER WOMAN!
And ladies and gents, lets be kind to each other. Let's not be so quick to judge and make assumptions about people who may not have the same lifestyle as you. Stay at home moms do a lot more than you think.
So the next time you encounter a stay at home mom, please don't ask her what she does all day.
& if you ignore my advice
Please don't be offended by her response!
Being a mother, working or non working, is one of the most amazing opportunities on earth. Let's respect each other. & my stay at home mamas, don't be afraid to tell everyone to
Put some RESPEK on your name!