Hey guys. I hope you're enjoying this beautiful day.
So this week I was tuning into the The Real (apart of my daily routine) and Adrian said something that really had me thinking. I mean this is a quote that I've heard people from Pastors to thugs say, but for some reason it really stuck with me.
"If you don't have any friends, if conflict is apart of your normal routine, if the same situations occur in your life, the common denominator is YOU!"
I've been thinking a lot lately about how hard it is to really sit with myself and reflect on MY flaws. It's so easy to look at and judge what everyone else is lacking. It's even easier to look at situations and find fault in everyone else. But guess what?
A lot of times, the problem is NOT everyone else, the problem is YOU! (me included)
Lamentations 3:40 "Let us test and examine our ways, and return to the Lord."
It is so important to spend time testing and examining our ways, thoughts, and history. We have to die to the flesh, and our old ways daily. But in order to submit our bad habits to God, we have to be willing to be honest with ourselves.
To the female/male who has no friends, I say this in love, that is not of God. We are called to fellowship and have accountability. Jesus demonstrated this himself. And I promise you, it is not everyone else. You have to be honest enough to see that the problem is probably you.
I was once in this category. I had a negative lens that made me assume that people were not genuine, but I had to be real with myself, and ask God to change my view on that. The change started with ME.
To the female/male who seems to always find themselves in drama, you have to really sit back and consider why this is always happening to YOU.
Again, I am saying this in love. It is so hard for me to sit and stop pointing out what everyone else did wrong and to focus on myself, but it is so NECESSARY! If our goal is to be more like Jesus in every way, we have to be willing to start with ourselves.
If this post struck a nerve in you, take that as the Holy Spirit trying to move. I challenge you to take some time out and think about your track record. Really examine your heart, and your patterns. At the end of the day, we have to be brave enough to acknowledge that we may be the common denominator, and ask God to help us make a change for the better. This is something that I try to do regularly.
It starts with you. Make that change!